Quick check on the countdown: 89 more days!
Just thought I should write a quick update since it’s still fresh in my mind and since my period cramps are giving me no mood to do anything else other than to sleep, but now dah nak dekat maghrib so tak boleh tido.
We just went for the ROMM interview today! I took a half day leave and left my opis at noon. We decided to go in the afternoon since H was working night shift last night.
The afternoon time slot for ROMM interview is 2-3.30pm. I was there early, then my parents came, but H and his mum was late. There were actually a lot of Malay couples at 2pm, so while waiting for H to arrived, I just took a queue number first since we had to wait quite a bit. But then, H had to wait quite long to find parking space. Unfortunately, the carpark was quite tiny and it seems like Monday is a busy day. We missed our queue number and by the time H joined us at 2.45, we reported our “missed queue number” at the counter, but instead of re-calling our queue number, the grumpy pakcik issued us another number. So we had to wait all over again, for a longer period this time. Pffft.
Our number finally came up at 3+, and this makcik who attended to us at the counter basically checked our ICs and asked us to check that all the information we submitted during the online registration are correct. She asked whether we have attended the pre-marriage course, but it was only to tick yes/no in one of the checkbox of the document she printed. She didn’t ask that question because it was compulsory or anything, but I just took out our certs voluntarily and let her have a look. She also explained to us the procedure if we were to make any amendments to venue, witnesses etc. Then we had to wait at the waiting area again to enter the interview room to meet the ustaz.
When our queue number came up again, the Wali has to enter alone first, with our ICs and the document printed out by the makcik from the counter. That’s where the Wali has to angkat sumpah first. My dad was in for like 3 minutes, then when he came out, it was our turn to enter.
The ustaz basically asked us whether we have been married before, whether we agree to marry each other, and whether there are any compulsion in this marriage. If everything is ok, we took turns to angkat sumpah to basically swear that all information we just verified are true, and gave our signatures. Then the ustaz casually asked whether we have attended the course and when I took out our certs again, he politely declined to see it because it’s not necessary. He also asked if we have attended any classes, but it felt very casual and light, and not pressurising at all. My mum told me that during her time, the ustaz would ask which class you are attending, from which ustaz, and they will even ask you to recite Al-Fatihah on the spot. Thank god there’s no more such thing cos even I expected him to ask us about rukun Islam and rukun iman. Since we indicated our highest qualifications and jobs on the online application, he also asked which uni we studied in and what kind of jobs we are working as. It was all kind of casual conversation, nothing too stressful.
I was actually quite uncomfortable when H took that photo of me, hence I look a bit stressed. But I didn’t stop him anyway since I know I would love these kind of moments to be captured for memories’ sake. By the time we ended everything, it was already 4pm.
I remember Ustaz Zahid mentioning before that these questions are for statistical purposes so that our Muslim leaders know the general background of the Muslim community who are getting married, in terms of their level of Islamic knowledge and probably economic status too. Ustaz Zahid shared that the asatizahs who interview couples would generally give each couple a rating of about 1 to 3, in terms of our Islamic level, based on their impression of our level of faith. Apparently, he mentioned that the statistics of our community in general is quite bad and the asatizahs are making the effort to reach out to youths to pull them to the right path. Because when the level of faith of the parents are not good, there’s a high chance that when they have kids, the level of faith of the next generation will be lower. So the asatizahs are doing their best to uplift our community.
- I am guessing Mondays and Fridays are busy days to attend ROMM interviews since people are more willing to take leave on those days. So come early!
- Come extra early if you are driving. Parking is really limited. Best is to take public.
- Documents to bring: basically just the ICs of the Wali and the couple and probably your marriage course cert. If applicable, you may also bring your adoption papers, divorce papers, or Islam conversion card.
- Just chill and lepak. Don’t need to be in hijab if you’re not a hijabi. There’s nothing much to be nervous about haha.