Cringe

I cringe every time people give wishes or make love declarations that lack a long-term time frame.

Marriage Bites

I have come up with an idea on writing down my thoughts and reflections about my journey and transition from being single to married. Basically, this will be just to fill this blog with something while I have nothing much to update for the wedding. Hahahah. This series of posts will be called Marriage Bites!

This idea was inspired by The WTB Diary sharing sessions that I have attended, which started almost 2 years ago. One of the activities that we did was referred to as the ice cream sticks questions. Those who attended, would know what I’m talking about.

So Marriage Bites will be a series of blog posts, whereby I will posting questions and topics about marriage and then I will share my thoughts on them by answering the questions. Each post will have one topic or question, and will be published at a staggered period of maybe between a few days to a week. I already have a list of questions and topics prepared, but feel free to contribute more ideas!

It’s going to be very personal and maybe deep, but writing helps in my thinking process. And I hope that by publishing my thoughts, there will be other WTB/BTB girls out there who share some similar sentiments as me and we know that we are not alone in this journey.

Afterall, a wedding will just last one weekend, but a marriage will last a lifetime.

Expectation vs Reality

I must admit, I used to have high expectations on my future wedding. This was during my own version of zaman jahiliyah, when I was more shallow-minded, thinking that having a massive grand wedding is the ultimate goal in life. How? Because I watch TONNES of Bollywood movies since I was a toddler (I still do). As I grow older, of course I get wiser (lol), and then when it’s really time to really get married, reality sets it.

Countdown: 10 months

Looking at my calendar, 10 months sounds like it will fly very fast. But at the same time, 300 days feels like it’s still a long time to go. And I have no idea how I am supposed to feel right now. Am I supposed to start panicking now that the number of months left can be counted with 2 hands? Or do I still have time to take it slow and steady to absorb the fact that my life is going to change forever?

The Beginning

Here’s the start to a new blog, a new beginning. Me being me, I lost the number of blogs I used to have. I used to write in Livejournal, WordPress, Blogger and a few other platforms which I don’t even remember anymore, and all of them were left abandoned. Each time I start a new blog, I would hope that it would be my last and permanent one, but it hasn’t worked so far. Hahaha. And yes, I still hope this would be the last new blog that I create. Permanent or not, I haven’t decided yet because I still have another semi-active wordpress blog which I am trying to revive.

This blog is definitely different and more special from the other blogs I had, because I intend to write about my personal journey in transition from being a single lady to a married woman. I will be penning down my thoughts, my reflections and my opinions. Subjects will be about weddings (duh), my future marriage, Islam (in relation to marriage/wedding) and anything or anyone else in my circle of life like people who matter to me, though I hope to focus on issues and relationships that will be more permanent, that are likely to be for ever.

My intention of sharing these personal thoughts of mine on this blog is for memories’ sake, and for sharing purposes, especially to other ladies/guys out there who may be going through a similar phase. I hope that whatever I share here will provide some form of perspective which may help others go through this tough transition better. I would like to think that there are no right or wrong opinions or beliefs, and  that there is always something to learn from everyone. So I strongly welcome comments/feedbacks from readers out there. The more interaction, the better. 🙂